Welcomed or not life brings change. You may not like it, you don’t always need to understand it, but you should do your very best to embrace it. Remembering with change comes new opportunity, growth and adventure. Without those three things life wouldn’t be a journey worth exploring. Just saying…
Carry on that is all..
What my father never taught me about life or at the very least I refused to listen too….
Now that we have covered the dating scene lets take a moment to cover marriage and friends. Most people would never correlate the two but I see them as being very similar beasts, almost controlling every emotional aspect of your life.
Side by side the similarities are mind-blowing! Marriage being the 
ultimate friendship, the very top of the ladder, the creme de la creme of relationships! Its you saying “hey friend, we are so good together that I really can’t see myself living life without you so let’s get married” yep legally best friends till death do us part! Whats even better is after the courthouse contract is signed, the two of you get together and seal the deal! No prick of the finger blood buddies pact here, oh no! Just a good old-fashioned, we are in this for the long haul let’s get naked sex!! Don’t you dare frown or lift a Vulcan eyebrow at this tidbit of information, its true! Not a married couple I know hasn’t consummated the deal that night after toasting, and drinking copious amounts of alcohol! Yep legal in the courthouse, signed and sealed with a romp in the hay! Best friends for ever!!!!
Ok, lets take it down a notch, mellow it out a little, a cold shower if you will. As far as rating relationships go everyone has a “best friend” you know the one person who is like a sibling! Always there when you need them, you have done everything together, the two of you were inseparable before the “better half” walked into the 
picture! That emotionally available someone who gets you! That one person you can shop with, see a movie together, visit male strip clubs with, shoot at a gasoline tanker then jump off a cliff while professing your undying love for each other! That best friend.
Here is the thing about these relationships, (BFF & Spouse) one can’t survive without the other. If your best friend doesn’t like your better half, life sucks! If your better half doesn’t like your best friend, life sucks. If your better half complains about all your friends, you guessed it, life sucks. If you can’t stand her best friend or the myriad of other friends she has, life sucks! So as you can see the two are very much the same emotional animal!
I have no real advise here, but this little tid-bit does come to mind. If it’s too hard, as in; if you feel as though you have to work really hard all the time putting out emotional fires between any and all parties. It’s not worth it, move on. there are 6,973,738,433 people on this crazy sphere we call earth. Move on make new friends, bond with a new better half, they are out there, just move on…
Friends 
Through your life they (friends) will come and go. I have had many wonderful people walk in and right back out that friendship door. Some of them I miss greatly, others I wouldn’t cross the street to piss on their burning ashes. But because of all these people I have developed a sense of worth, as in what’s my friendship worth to you or visa-versa.
A true friend.
The perfect spouse
Marriage
Marriage is a unique commitment between two people saying we are in this for a lifetime. But I believe today’s society has not allowed 
most couples to fully grasp the commitment portion of this pact. Marriage is romanticized in society as this easy-going love affair that never ends between two people. Always filled with happy endings, puppies and kisses on the veranda at dusk. (Thank you Hollywood)
In reality marriage can become like the aforementioned description with the exception of an occasional disagreement that sometimes goes on for days leaving you sleeping on the couch because there is no way in hell you are sleeping next to queen stubborn! Sorry I digress…
Marriage has all the qualities of a great friendship combined with an overwhelming attraction both mentally, physically and emotionally between two people. The phrase; My soul mate, comes to mind. The key (in my opinion) to a great marriage is compromise. That word alone is one of the hardest for most young couples to grasp! At an 
early age most of us are overly educated (both scholarly and from the school of hard knocks) very sure of ourselves and refuse to be proven wrong. Throw a like-minded partner into the mix and even the simplest of disagreements can become toxic with discontent in a very short time. What couples need to know is there is no right or wrong. Both of your opinions are valid, both of your reasoning’s are sound, by refusing to see your partners side of an issue you are the reason for discontent in the situation. Compromise. Sometimes you agree to disagree while laying validity to another point of view. Both sides walk away happy, marriage intact.
Last but not least; and I can’t stress this point enough, when it comes to marriage and compromise, never-and I mean NEVER, go to bed angry. Its easier to say you are sorry, (truthful or not) let it go and forget about the issue, then it is to hold your ground allowing the issue to fester overnight creating an emotional monster that will take an army to bring down. Trust me, I am very stubborn and opinionated (no kidding right) I have recognized on numerous occasions my inherit ability to come across as a giant pain in the ass! 
By just dropping the subject, changing my tone, then politely saying I am sorry, many nights resigned to the couch have been avoided.
So there it is, marriage and friendships are basically the same thing. Trust me, there are some friends I should have treated more like spouses and a spouse that I thoroughly enjoy having as my best friend.
What my father never taught me about life or at the very least I refused to listen too….
(Cont….)
As with my last posting, this is hard-earned wisdom spread to all who lay their eyes upon it. An old saying “learn from your elders” has never rung more true. Advice mixed with blatant sarcasm and humor.
Women
Women, girls, gals, the opposite sex; The center of the universe to us knuckle dragging, heavy breathing, prankster playing, ignorant, slobbering boys. Here is where the rubber meets the road, for you see in our society we focus learning through a structured education environment, but even so, when it comes to the opposite sex we fall flat on our face every time! Oh sure there are plenty of quality programs teaching our youth about men and women, our functionality when it comes to the nether region, the proper or in proper use of birth control, all of which I will cover further down the line. But what about the basic understanding of women? What about the simplest of simple, getting to understand how much different women/girls are from men/boys?
Books, educational classes, seminars, late night T.V. there’s a myriad of avenues pursuing knowledge on this subject! psychology professors, writers, and money-grubbing hacks from around the world vying for your every dollar, under the guise of helping you better understand the vast difference between men and women. (beyond I have a penis, you have a vagina) In reality the people who should be explaining this whole process are uncomfortable, the people responsible for ensuring your mental prowess in regards to this issue are not preparing you adequately for the uphill battle you will eventually face! Its like telling Rocky Balboa to study trigonometry before a prize-fight, don’t worry about all that physical training stuff, you got this champ! Without training, he’s gonna lose!
I have suited up in my jogging suit, skull-cap pulled down tight, time to become the Burgess Meredith of young lad inter sexes relationship training! Only for a moment, but just long enough to spread the wealth of knowledge I have learned the hard way over my 46 years on this planet.
WOMEN ARE BATSHIT CRAZY!!!!
There we are, that’s all you need to know! Now go forth and spread the word to all your friends so they too understand the widening gap between men and women hinges on the fact women are batshit crazy
!! This of course leads to an impossible melding of communication between the two. As far as what exactly both men and women are thinking at that crucial moment of a communication, that second you begin building interpersonal relationships! I belive after carefully watching the two species in thier most intimate of settings (the local pub) it goes something like this:
Men: DDDDUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHH-Oh yeah beer. DDDDDDUUUUHHHHH-oh yeah you pretty! DDDDUUUUUUUUUHHHHHH- must eat to survive! Have sex, spreading my seed upon the world.
Women: The sounds of a thousand angels repeating all the worries of the world in unison. Then taking a moment out to recognize this man has needs too. Motherly instincts take over…
Yep I could out do Marlin Perkins from Mututal of Ohmahas wild kingdom!
Just kidding no hate comments please!!!
Now that I have your attention. I wish my father would have better prepared me to understand women. It would have helped prevent awkward situations like when I pushed little Marlo down in 2nd grade because I thought she was swell. Pushing my buddies down was a common occurrence it happened all the time, they pushed me, I pushed them, that’s how we knew we were buddies! Or when I argued my way out of a “girlfriend” in 7th grade because she thought she knew more about cars than I did. (if you were unsure about my automobile knowledge base just read a few of my past blogs in regards this topic) Hey dad, how about teaching me about self-confidence, instead of belittling every female experience I ever had, then maybe I would have felt a little stronger when it came to being dumped! What about having a “girlfriend”. Yeah believe it or not men can be friends without having the urge to kiss said friend. ( my entire high school life) Although kissing really is fun with the right set of lips!
There are so many differences in the way men and women/boys and girls think. Yet we are sending our young lads out to do romantic/relationship battle without being prepared! Seems to me this equates to sending a military sniper to the roof top without a rifle!
Our young lads need to be taught that love is much more than kissing and sex! Women on occasion equate love to long walks, building a relationship, holding hands and talking. All of this of course eventually leading up to kissing and when the moment is right, sex! Yep its true! Not a woman out there that doesn’t wish for a good romp in the hay now and again! They have the same needs as men, she just goes about it a little differently than you do junior!
Men equate love to getting laid! Of course that is the furthest extreme. Men also equate 
love to a first kiss. If a girl/woman has taken the time to push her sweet-smelling, soft, perfect little lips up to your smelly, dirty, sweaty, gruff face then it must be love! Right? Right?????
Men/boys you are ready to profess your undying love the minute your slobbering kisser pulls away from hers! Fireworks shooting in the air, funny, uncontrollable stiffness in the nether region, cold sweat pouring from your skin. Why yes Watson its obvious, it must be love! NOT!!!
Women/girls on the other hand are a little more controlled. They pull away from your slobbering lips, they appear flustered and bewildered. They may even move in for one or two more kisses, just long enough to make said nether region wish for an ice pack. This is all part of their devious plan to keep you wanting more! Eyeballs staring, eyelashes batting, looking at you as if you were the center of the universe! Then as quickly as the fireworks began, the show is over. Why? Because they are smart enough, even at an early 
age to recognize that stiffness you carry is just as uncomfortable for them as it is for you. Women/girls step away, leave you wanting more, head home/walk inside/ get out of the car and immediately call their best friend! Why? Because son, its evaluation time! No instant love here, she needs to understand what she is feeling! She and her friends all have a score card with your name on it and its evaluation time! She needs to know; and I mean know, you are worthy of a second kiss! A second date, or maybe even if your lucky, permission to be seen in public (by public I mean her friends) with her! Where us men/boys are like panting dogs in heat, the lasses are sizing up the competition, taking notes and preparing for the final. Will you pass, will you end up her girlfriend, just a friend, or a booty call? Only she knows and all you can do is cool your jets and be patient, that is if being more than a friend is at the top of your list.
Dating
Heres where I learned many hard lessons. The time-honored tradition of stepping out with acquaintances, complete strangers or that girl you have known for a long time as just a friend. Dating was fun, I enjoyed meeting new people, having a good time, and many lifelong friends from large get together have come from within the dating scene. But there are some things every lad should know before walking out that door. Heed these words oh young ones or suffer the consequences! The choice is yours…
personality third. Women are attracted by smells first, personality second and looks third. So smell good, and I don’t mean your fathers old spice after shave or that god awful Axe! Besides with Axe according to the commercials you will be fighting off throngs of swimsuit models all night and well that just leads to an uncomfortable situation with a lot of explaining to do! Simple smells, be showered, clean and a subtle breath mint wouldn’t hurt.to be continued……….
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