The secret to raising boys from my perspective is quite simple.
Get married, have wife give birth to boy, tell boy he is wrong, repeat!
Now before all of you, everyone deserves a trophy, what about their self esteem, let the child raise itself free from the oppressive parent to find their unbridled passion in life parents jump my shit! Let me explain.
It’s my experience that girls are smarter, and quicker to understand the learned message no matter the age. They are not trying to emulate you the male role model in any way. My daughter looks up to me, respects my opinion, and puts forth effort to make changes whenever conflict or mistakes occur. She is an ever evolving, growing, expanding being who has aspired to become her own person following the teachings of her combined parental figures from the monent her chubby little knees could carry her unassisted across our kitchen floor. Oh don’t get me wrong she can clam up, lock down and square that jaw with steely reserve when she wants to like no other! But she never stops learning.
My boys on the other hand would light fireworks from their asses at the drop of a hat!
Yep from the minute all three of them could walk it has been a constant parental repetition of; STOP! DONT DONT DO THAT! WHAT THE HOLY HELL HAVE YOU DONE!! Or my personal favorite; AND YOU THOUGHT THAT WAS A GOOD IDEA, WHY??? Now some are better than others, but the old adage; boys will be boys always plays true.
Snakes and frogs either left to scare mom or shoved in her face as she opens the door! Fish guts on the floor, rotting carcasses left forgotten in the basement for taxidermy, dirty clothes scattered across the house that apparently belongs to no one.
Tools spread across the shop that no one has used, broken ranch equipment that no one has touched, trucks that are not running right and have never, ever made that noise before as enough mud falls from their wheel wells to build a city of indigenous huts!
Ah yes boys.
They will tell you from the minute they learn something, anything that you have been doing it all wrong. They have it all figured out, don’t need your advice, cannot for the life of them understand why you don’t feel they are ready to head out on their own, or take over some of the major projects in need of completion. You sir are old, frail and in need of stepping aside for the young, naturally accomplished male.
They have no real understanding of time, and commitment because everything comes so easy for them in their minds. They are the true masters of their domain. Yet they are doing it all wrong! Their thinking is all wrong, the mistakes being made are from being wrong and at times are disasterous!
Thusly my job as a male parental figure is simple.
Raise them, tell them they are wrong, repeat.
Because if I told them they were right they would never be mad at me. If they were never mad at me they really wouldn’t listen to what I have to say. Nothing sticks in a youthful male craw when testosterone is involved more than hearing your dad say you are wrong!
That is when your boy will do everything he can to prove YOU are wrong. Then and only then will you be proven right, and with a celebratory beer in your hand all the wrong doings of your childhood come full circle. You are then stuck with the sound of your dads voice echoing in the back of your head with witty one liners like: you know son if you had half a brain it would be an improvement! Or How did two average morons like your mother and I produce such a fucking genius?
Ahhhh good times, good memories. Yes that much cherished sound of the old man reverberating through my brain, calling me a dumbass! It truly is the circle of life!
So there it is, my secret to raising boys! Tell them they are wrong, watch them fail, slap your own forehead while rubbing a little more hair from you dome, embrace the grey hair that comes with raising boys and relish in one of two things. The joy of when they do it right (your way) and succeed, along with the joy of telling them on that rare occasion they did it their way and it worked that maybe, just this one time they weren’t such an idiot after all.
Remember dads sharing knowledge is caring and as a father the stronger your repertoire the easier to produce disappointment along with the better the one liners will be your son uses when he has a son.
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Omg isn’t that the truth….
After having my son, I was told that boys are so much easier to raise then girls….. They haven’t met my son….. Nor my daughter……
Ha! I’m not sure where they get their stubbornness or tenacity from……
I know right??? I repeat constantly to myself; it’s like looking in the mirror. How would you have handled you at that age?? Sometimes that works other times I just look towards the heavens and apologize to my dad.
I guess I’m in for it because my daughter sounds a lot like your sons and my son is 3 so who knows what’s in store 🤣! He peed in my bed this morning after peeing on the potty though and I said “why would you do that?” I guess I’m destined to repeat this phrase over & over! Oh, the joys of parenting 🤦. Thanks for another great story!! ~Anne
When you ask the question; why would you do that? Rest assured all will be ok as long as they never answer; because I can! Ha ha!! That’s when you know your truly in trouble! 😀
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LOL! Very true=)!
This is why we need a female president!
And to continue, I think you have 3 of the most amazing, interesting and fun boys I’ve ever know. And your daughter is terrific as well, mdf